Narcissism

[Jim Spencer]

When it is impossible to have an intelligent conversation with a person---where there is not the ability to contemplate alternate views; accept personal frailty, vulnerability, human error; without feeling judged, attacked, or guilt-ridden-----the person has a problem with Narcissism. ALL humans have this mental disorder to greater or lessor degrees, because it is part of the protective framework that allows us to survive in this world. But, when a person is severely afflicted with narcissism---they lose all connection with reality. For these mentally unbalanced people, the fortifications around their minds are such that little light can enter. Extreme narcisssism is a form of psycopathic illness---they don't have the ability to emotionally feel sympathy. Their whole world is built around themselves. How can you understand these types of people? One way is, according to them; they are never wrong; never make mistakes; and have grandiose beliefs that they are super-wise. What they say often is not logical. But, in their insanity, they see the great logic. A very extreme form of narcissism is when a person fills his apartment walls with scriblings---sometimes covering entire walls with writings. Other forms of narcissism would include the leaders of North Korea. They concoct grandiose schemes to make themselves out to be "almost divine" and incapable of error or untruth.  

Narcissism is usually caused by childhood trauma and abuse. The closing of the heart is one way that a person can protect it. A fortress is built around the fragile heart---an entire self-concept which is often, "lost in space".

How do we emerge from our shell of narcissism, our personal world of unreality---especially since self-esteem----genuine healthy self-love and self-respect are absent?  How do we break down these walls of unreality so that we can join God's family of love of brothers and sisters? It is harder to do this when one is in an active religion that uses fear, guilt, and the "chosen people concept"  in order to motivate its members. But it can be done, with the power of Love and Faith. Men of faith can pray diligently, over an over, this prayer:

"Heavenly Father---I am only a human being, created by You. Of my own self--I can do nothing. I cannot save myself, I cannot know truth, I cannot even have life without you. You created me, and You told me that I am your son and that You love me. Father, I need you to guide me, help me, protect me, and heal me. I know that You are the only power in the universe, and that you are aware of every sparrow that falls. So, I know that you know me, love me, and care for me. Father, I entrust my life into your hands for your guidance. I know that if my attitude is to sacrifice my all upon your alter of love---you will surely lead me by the power of your Spirit of Truth---into all truth. You will give me re-birth, and change me into a son that can fulfill the blueprint that you placed inside of me before you created me. Father, when I consistently offer myself up to you, the Creator of the Universe, with my whole heart----no evil can ever befall me. Because, You alone are the Ruler and Upholder of all life. Heavenly Father, you created me because of joy. Help me to become that being of light and life that you wanted. Help me to overcome my fear, my suspicion, my anger, my jealousy, my intolerance of others. Fill me with your divine nature of love---the same love that you filled Jesus with---so that I can begin to fulfill your commandment to love others as you love me. Help me to trust you in all ways, every day and every moment of my life. And, teach me to heal others, so that the Kingdom of Heaven on Earth can come." 

I pray this prayer, in the  name of Christ" Amen

 

Pray this prayer for 40 Days

 

 

 

 Narcissism definition from Wikopedia

"Narcissism is a term with a wide range of meanings, depending on whether it is used to describe a central concept of psychoanalytic theory, a mental illness, a social or cultural problem, or simply a personality trait. Except in the sense of primary narcissism or healthy self-love, "narcissism" usually is used to describe some kind of problem in a person or group's relationships with self and others. In everyday speech, "narcissism" often means egoism, vanity, conceit, or simple selfishness. Applied to a social group, it is sometimes used to denote elitism or an indifference to the plight of others. In psychology, the term is used to describe both normal self-love and unhealthy self-absorption due to a disturbance in the sense of self."